मुझे तू याद हैं ...

आज हिंदी दिवस पर यह कविता मैंने अपने पिता जी की याद में लिखी है जिन्हे मैंने इसी वर्ष अप्रैल मैं खोया है।  हालाँकि उनका देहांत ४ मई को हुआ परन्तु मैंने उन्हें आखिरी बार अप्रैल में ही देखा था जिसके उपरांत मैं खुद अस्पताल में भर्ती हो गयी थी। आज यह कविता लिखने का प्रमुख कारण यह है की आज से ठीक चार महीने पहले यानि १४ मई को ही मुझे अपने पिता जी के देहांत की खबर मिली थी। आज की तारीख़ को ही जिस सच्चाई का एहसास होते हुए भी मेरा दिल मानना नहीं चाह रहा था वह मेरे सामने आयी थी।    

मुझे तू याद हैं ...

मुझको याद है, तेरा प्यार से बेटा बुलाना,

तू ठीक है ? यह पूछ चिंता को जाताना,

मुझपे गर्व है, यह बार बार,  तेरा दोहराना,

आगे बढ़ती रहे, पढ़ती रहे, यह कहते जाना। 

तेरा यूँ इर्द गिर्द मेरे, दुनिया अपनी बसाना,  

मेरा एक अश्रु देख,  दुनिया से, यूँ टकराना,

थोड़ा कहने भर से, बातों को यूँ , मान जाना, 

विदा करके भी, मेरी चिंता, तुझे हर पल सताना।  

मुझे मैं याद हूँ ...

तू है नहीं, कैसी सोच है?, यह सोच मेरा सो न पाना

तुझको देखने की ज़िद में, मेरा यूँ झुंझलाना 

खुद की बढ़ी मुसीबतो में, डूब जाना, 

मुझको याद है, मेरा ' मैं ' के लिए यूँ तिलमिलाना।  

मुझको याद है वो पल, मेरा बेचैन होना, 

जिस पल तेरा, मुझे छोड़, दुनिया से चला जाना,

मुझको याद है, सच बोलने से, सबका यूँ मुकर जाना, 

एहसास होने पर भी, सच को मेरा, यूँ देख न पाना। 

मुझे तू याद है ...

मुझे देके तोफहा, जिंदगी का यूँ चले जाना, 

एहसास बन, फिर साथ मेरा यूँ निभा जाना, 

खुद को खो के, मुझको खींच के यूँ वापिस ले आना, 

मीठी याद बनके दिल में मेरे यूँ समां जाना। 

“This post is a part of ‘UMeU’ Poetry Blog Hop #UMeUBlogHop organized by Manas Mukul . The hop is brought to you by SoulCraft and You, Me & The Universe.”    

 

अतीत के पन्ने

यूँ हि बरसो से बन्द पड़ी किताब में,  

अतीत के कुछ पन्ने खोले, 

उसमे आज भी उनसे सीखी, 

सब बात का एहसास उसमे ज़िंदा हैं | 

कागज़ का रंग पीला पड़ गया, 

श्याही फ़ीकी हो चली,  

पर उनकी लिखी हर पंक्ति का, 

अर्थ आज भी कविताओं में ज़िंदा हैं |

शुक्रिया कहुँ या शिकवा करुँ, 

दोनों का अब मोल नहीं,

जिनको जाना था वो चले गए, 

पर हमारी यादों में, वह आज भी ज़िंदा हैं |  

Zeal of Happiness

Dear Aarush and Aayra,

Happiness is a choice. We can add the zeal of happiness in our lives. Zeal is passion or enthusiasm or eagerness In pursuit of an objective. It is not an emotion rather devotion of a person to a cause or an objective.

Whatever you decide to do make sure it makes you happy

-Paulo Coelho

There are a lot of factors which are related to our happiness. 

• Authority
• Friendship
• Family
• Wealth
• Education
• Religion
• Health

We need to prioritize them in our own way. If you are clear with your priorities, you can direct yourself easily towards happiness. The zeal of happiness is something that is important to live a healthy life. Instead of having small materialistic goals, this should be the main aim of someone's life. after all, happiness is the only key to balance your mind, body, and soul. If you have the zeal no one can stop you to attain happiness in your life. It teaches you how to be more passionate in life and keep your happiness your first priority than anyone else's.

There are so many things which could nurture your zeal of happiness

• Meditation
• Yoga
• Traveling
• Self-love
• Mental fitness
• Writing
• Reading
• Good food

You will be facing a lot of difficult times in your life ahead. There will be times when you will feel unhappy or confused just remember one thing your zeal of happiness could help you sail through those times.

Good Luck!!

This post is a part of Blogchatter’s A2Z challenge, #BlogchatterA2Z  on the alphabet 'Z'. My theme for this challenge is ‘Letters to My Kids, learnings of life I want them to know when they grow up’. You can also look for the same under #jainnehas or @jainneha86 on Instagram and Twitter

I want to thank Blogchatter for giving me an opportunity to be consistent with my blog. This helps me writing about a few of those things which I want to tell my kids, even I think this can help others also in some way. I hope I will be writing more in the future and get a chance to read more too.

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Yesterday Is Gone

Dear Aarush and Aayra,

Yesterday is the day before today. One very important thing we heard a lot of times but never understood really is, time never repeats itself. I don't know how much truth is there in quantum mechanics or all the time travel theories but, as far as I know, time never repeats itself. The situation can be repeated but the system associated with it won't. This is what we need to understand and accept. This will only help us to value present and give us all, hope for the future.

Yesterday is not only a day it is the past and it is gone. Dwelling on the past will do us no good. One needs to look forward to a new sunrise, a new day.

I clearly remember a few lines which I studied in my school time said by Mother Teresa

Yesterday is gone. 
Tomorrow has not yet come.
We have only today.
Let us begin.

These are the lines of hope. These are the lines of a doer, not a quitter. If in future you feel low thinking about yesterday or your past just read these lines. I am not saying one needs to forget yesterday. After all, yesterday is the one which makes you experienced. It makes you learn all the good and bad in life. yesterday only builts or awakens your conscience. But with all this one needs to learn that it is gone. One must learn and move forward. If not learned we tend to base our thoughts, our emotions on yesterday. It will be yesterday, who will decide how we feel today. It is dangerous sometimes. It makes people living in the past sometimes.

The future gives hope. It gives you a goal. It is good to plan but it needs action, which can be taken today to shape the future. So, today is the day. It is not possible to change the past and to see the future so, take your learning and make most of today and move forward.

Good Luck!!

This post is a part of Blogchatter’s A2Z challenge, #BlogchatterA2Z  on the alphabet 'Y'. My theme for this challenge is ‘Letters to My Kids, learnings of life I want them to know when they grow up’. You can also look for the same under #jainnehas or @jainneha86 on Instagram and Twitter

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Xenophobia Is Not Racism

Dear Aarush and Aayra,

"Mom I am not going to use this. This is made in China. Why have you brought this? You should not buy anything which is made in china. They spread COVID 19". Knock! Knock! It is a wake-up call for me. These are the exact words that you, my dear ten-year-old son said to me when I gave you colors for Holi. But you still used them saying It's ok they are Holi colors. Now, whenever you watch television and if there is some news related to Chinese people you say "we should boycott them" and in the same evening you watch Chinese movies saying they are funny. This made me realize two important things first, even I didn't say it to you ever but you are sounding like a xenophobic, I hope this ends soon. And second is that whatever the case is when it comes to your interest your rules tend to change. 

This is a very crucial time for the whole world. COVID 19 is spreading everywhere. Whenever there is a threat, different personalities of people can be seen. Some of them will emerge as fighters and help others too some of them emerge as blamers they don't do anything but try to put the blame of failures on others. In this current situation too, everyone is blaming a particular set of people for this pandemic. The irony is this particular set of people doesn't belong to one place they are already living in different countries, in fact, they are the residents, but in this time of crisis, everyone looks at these people as a threat and behaves badly with them. This actually is resulting in xenophobia.

Xenophobia is fear and hatred of strangers or foreigners. This phobia is spreading everywhere. When we go to the market to buy essentials it is obvious one gets scared looking at other people especially if their looks are similar as of Chinese. Actually right now the situation is such where everyone is scared of anyone who is a stranger or a foreigner.

Xenophobia is different from Racism. Racism is a broader spectrum. Xenophobia could be a starting point to it but it is debatable that it could lead to racism or not. Xenophobia is a phobia that could be present or develop in any person in such situations the world is facing right now. Racism is more of a social evil that is sadly present in the world and also quite permanent in nature. Xenophobia is a personal phobia that varies from person to person whereas racism belongs to a particular group. A phobia is a type of anxiety disorder defined by excessive fear of a thing or situation. One could get rid of it easily and sometimes with a lot of difficulties. Xenophobia which I think most of the people are facing now is more likely to be temporary because of the situation in the world.

There are chances where we might face such situations in the future also. For this one needs to be prepared in every way and needs to learn how to cope with this phobia. First and foremost tell yourself:
Whatever is happening is nobody's fault.
This time too shall pass.
There will be a new day tomorrow.
Fight together not against each other.
I am just scared everything will be fine.
I am being loved so I should love all.
I should help as much as I can.

Good Luck!!

This post is a part of Blogchatter’s A2Z challenge, #BlogchatterA2Z  on the alphabet 'X'. My theme for this challenge is ‘Letters to My Kids, learnings of life I want them to know when they grow up’. You can also look for the same under #jainnehas or @jainneha86 on Instagram and Twitter

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Winning is not important participating is

Dear Aarush and Aayra,

Yesterday, you made beautiful posters for a competition. After I submitted your entries you both were super excited and started listing all the things you are going to buy, when you will get the prize money. You were, again and again, asking me about a few other options you can buy from the prize money. Seeing you this excited I couldn't help but wonder what if you didn't get a prize. I thought you both will be disheartened so I started my well-practiced speech that, "baby winning is not everything the process of participation is". Again you gave me the same response "it's ok! we know we were just making the list in case we win".  I know that's not true, you were very confident about your entries for the competition and you actually believe that you will get a prize. I genuinely feel, confidence is good. But here, I didn't know how to deal with this whole thing.

This made me think that this is actually not your fault or anyone else's. This is how we are doing these things. In the name of motivation, we always project the prize first and then tell the kids to participate. May be motivation but now it is more greediness that is associated with it. Although, I am very happy that it really enhances your creativity and you came up with a wonderful piece of art but your love for prize money is what bothers me here. Today I want to tell you this again. Winning matters but winning is not everything, the process of participation, and doing something creative is far more important.

Winning is exciting. It also motivates you. It gives you confidence that you stand somewhere. It encourages you to participate more. But if this becomes your only goal then if by chance you lose, it will disappoint you. I am not saying that because of the fear of losing, you shouldn't try to win. What I want to convey is don't stick to the concept of winning too much. More fun is in participating. When you participate you learn, when you participate more you learn more, you get exposure and when you win it is great even if you don't end up winning, it is also winning since you learned so much. Maybe you didn't get the prize that day, but definitely, in the future, your hard work pays off in one way or the other.

Please participate more and more...

Good Luck!!

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Violence

Dear Aarush and Aayra,

Violence is a physical force intended to hurt and damage. This is what written in the dictionary I have at home. This really kept me thinking, being a mom is exciting, it is great, there are so many things that can be listed that how amazing it is to be your mom. But I want to admit that it is not easy. We are now living in a world where there are so many expectations and ideals associated with a single word. Being a mom is not only a mom. Being a dad is not only being a dad. Everything is complex. If you try to make a map of connections it will a spider's web for sure. With all the pressure; trying to be a perfect mother, a perfect guide, a perfect person we all end up doing a lot of mistakes. Sometimes I feel that there are a lot of mistakes I did for which I am still trying to forgive myself, among these, I have no shame to admit that a few times I lost my temper with you and slapped you. Because this is what we have grown up with whether its a TV series, any Bollywood movie, our teachers, even our parents we have seen that it's ok! to slap your kid if they misbehave. Parents have a right. But gradually I realized it is the worst thing I imitated in my life. This too is an act of violence, it doesn't matter that my intentions were not to hurt or damage you but I think on some unseen level it did. And I am really sorry about this. I am trying and will promise that it won't repeat again ever. This is the only act of violence I this I did so far other than fighting with my big brother when we were kids. Oh common! it sounded like I did it like so many times, Yes! it sounded that heavy but I assure you that is not the case but still, it won't repeat. Now, coming to the point, violence is definitely not something that should be accepted. There are different types of violence, some of them are:

• Economic violence
• Political violence
• Sexual or gender violence
• Domestic violence
• Cultural violence 
• Religious violence
• Information violence 
• Violence by cyberbullying
• Violence as per the act of terrorism

These types of violence can be observed easily near you. Witnessing is also kind of accepting it. I know in today's time it is difficult to act immediately but something should be done to stop these acts permanently. There is no parameter to find out the degree of violence because it is very difficult to find out how much a certain act harm or affect a human bearing it. Few damages cannot be seen or felt by anyone other than the person himself. The person who faced child molestation can't tell you how hurt he/she is. We should all fight against violence. Violence in any form cannot easily eradicate, it takes an army but if everyone does their bit it creates one. Do your bit. Help others too. We will surely get a better future. 

Good Luck!!

This post is a part of Blogchatter’s A2Z challenge, #BlogchatterA2Z  on the alphabet 'V'. My theme for this challenge is ‘Letters to My Kids, learnings of life I want them to know when they grow up’. You can also look for the same under #jainnehas or @jainneha86 on Instagram and Twitter

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