Thursday, 30 April 2020

Zeal of Happiness


Dear Aarush and Aayra,

Happiness is a choice. We can add the zeal of happiness in our lives. Zeal is passion or enthusiasm or eagerness In pursuit of an objective. It is not an emotion rather devotion of a person to a cause or an objective.

Whatever you decide to do make sure it makes you happy
-Paulo Coelho

There are a lot of factors which are related to our happiness. 

  • Authority
  • Friendship
  • Family
  • Wealth
  • Education
  • Religion
  • Health

We need to prioritize them in our own way. If you are clear with your priorities, you can direct yourself easily towards happiness. The zeal of happiness is something that is important to live a healthy life. Instead of having small materialistic goals, this should be the main aim of someone's life. after all, happiness is the only key to balance your mind, body, and soul. If you have the zeal no one can stop you to attain happiness in your life. It teaches you how to be more passionate in life and keep your happiness your first priority than anyone else's.

There are so many things which could nurture your zeal of happiness

  • Meditation
  • Yoga
  • Traveling
  • Self-love
  • Mental fitness
  • Writing
  • Reading
  • Good food

You will be facing a lot of difficult times in your life ahead. There will be times when you will feel unhappy or confused just remember one thing your zeal of happiness could help you sail through those times.

Good Luck!!

This post is a part of Blogchatter’s A2Z challenge, #BlogchatterA2Z  on the alphabet 'Z'. My theme for this challenge is ‘Letters to My Kids, learnings of life I want them to know when they grow up’. You can also look for the same under #jainnehas or @jainneha86 on Instagram and Twitter
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Wednesday, 29 April 2020

Yesterday Is Gone


Dear Aarush and Aayra,

Yesterday is the day before today. One very important thing we heard a lot of times but never understood really is, time never repeats itself. I don't know how much truth is there in quantum mechanics or all the time travel theories but, as far as I know, time never repeats itself. The situation can be repeated but the system associated with it won't. This is what we need to understand and accept. This will only help us to value present and give us all, hope for the future.

Yesterday is not only a day it is the past and it is gone. Dwelling on the past will do us no good. One needs to look forward to a new sunrise, a new day.

I clearly remember a few lines which I studied in my school time said by Mother Teresa

Yesterday is gone. 
Tomorrow has not yet come.
We have only today.
Let us begin.

These are the lines of hope. These are the lines of a doer, not a quitter. If in future you feel low thinking about yesterday or your past just read these lines. I am not saying one needs to forget yesterday. After all, yesterday is the one which makes you experienced. It makes you learn all the good and bad in life. yesterday only builts or awakens your conscience. But with all this one needs to learn that it is gone. One must learn and move forward. If not learned we tend to base our thoughts, our emotions on yesterday. It will be yesterday, who will decide how we feel today. It is dangerous sometimes. It makes people living in the past sometimes.

The future gives hope. It gives you a goal. It is good to plan but it needs action, which can be taken today to shape the future. So, today is the day. It is not possible to change the past and to see the future so, take your learning and make most of today and move forward.

Good Luck!!

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Tuesday, 28 April 2020

Xenophobia Is Not Racism


Dear Aarush and Aayra,


"Mom I am not going to use this. This is made in China. Why have you brought this? You should not buy anything which is made in china. They spread COVID 19". Knock! Knock! It is a wake-up call for me. These are the exact words that you, my dear ten-year-old son said to me when I gave you colors for Holi. But you still used them saying It's ok they are Holi colors. Now, whenever you watch television and if there is some news related to Chinese people you say "we should boycott them" and in the same evening you watch Chinese movies saying they are funny. This made me realize two important things first, even I didn't say it to you ever but you are sounding like a xenophobic, I hope this ends soon. And second is that whatever the case is when it comes to your interest your rules tend to change. 

This is a very crucial time for the whole world. COVID 19 is spreading everywhere. Whenever there is a threat, different personalities of people can be seen. Some of them will emerge as fighters and help others too some of them emerge as blamers they don't do anything but try to put the blame of failures on others. In this current situation too, everyone is blaming a particular set of people for this pandemic. The irony is this particular set of people doesn't belong to one place they are already living in different countries, in fact, they are the residents, but in this time of crisis, everyone looks at these people as a threat and behaves badly with them. This actually is resulting in xenophobia.

Xenophobia is fear and hatred of strangers or foreigners. This phobia is spreading everywhere. When we go to the market to buy essentials it is obvious one gets scared looking at other people especially if their looks are similar as of Chinese. Actually right now the situation is such where everyone is scared of anyone who is a stranger or a foreigner.

Xenophobia is different from Racism. Racism is a broader spectrum. Xenophobia could be a starting point to it but it is debatable that it could lead to racism or not. Xenophobia is a phobia that could be present or develop in any person in such situations the world is facing right now. Racism is more of a social evil that is sadly present in the world and also quite permanent in nature. Xenophobia is a personal phobia that varies from person to person whereas racism belongs to a particular group. A phobia is a type of anxiety disorder defined by excessive fear of a thing or situation. One could get rid of it easily and sometimes with a lot of difficulties. Xenophobia which I think most of the people are facing now is more likely to be temporary because of the situation in the world.

There are chances where we might face such situations in the future also. For this one needs to be prepared in every way and needs to learn how to cope with this phobia. First and foremost tell yourself:
Whatever is happening is nobody's fault.
This time too shall pass.
There will be a new day tomorrow.
Fight together not against each other.
I am just scared everything will be fine.
I am being loved so I should love all.
I should help as much as I can.

Good Luck!!

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Sunday, 26 April 2020

Winning is not important participating is



Dear Aarush and Aayra,

Yesterday, you made beautiful posters for a competition. After I submitted your entries you both were super excited and started listing all the things you are going to buy, when you will get the prize money. You were, again and again, asking me about a few other options you can buy from the prize money. Seeing you this excited I couldn't help but wonder what if you didn't get a prize. I thought you both will be disheartened so I started my well-practiced speech that, "baby winning is not everything the process of participation is". Again you gave me the same response "it's ok! we know we were just making the list in case we win".  I know that's not true, you were very confident about your entries for the competition and you actually believe that you will get a prize. I genuinely feel, confidence is good. But here, I didn't know how to deal with this whole thing.

This made me think that this is actually not your fault or anyone else's. This is how we are doing these things. In the name of motivation, we always project the prize first and then tell the kids to participate. May be motivation but now it is more greediness that is associated with it. Although, I am very happy that it really enhances your creativity and you came up with a wonderful piece of art but your love for prize money is what bothers me here. Today I want to tell you this again. Winning matters but winning is not everything, the process of participation, and doing something creative is far more important.

Winning is exciting. It also motivates you. It gives you confidence that you stand somewhere. It encourages you to participate more. But if this becomes your only goal then if by chance you lose, it will disappoint you. I am not saying that because of the fear of losing, you shouldn't try to win. What I want to convey is don't stick to the concept of winning too much. More fun is in participating. When you participate you learn, when you participate more you learn more, you get exposure and when you win it is great even if you don't end up winning, it is also winning since you learned so much. Maybe you didn't get the prize that day, but definitely, in the future, your hard work pays off in one way or the other.

Please participate more and more...

Good Luck!!

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Saturday, 25 April 2020

Violence



Dear Aarush and Aayra,

Violence is a physical force intended to hurt and damage. This is what written in the dictionary I have at home. This really kept me thinking, being a mom is exciting, it is great, there are so many things that can be listed that how amazing it is to be your mom. But I want to admit that it is not easy. We are now living in a world where there are so many expectations and ideals associated with a single word. Being a mom is not only a mom. Being a dad is not only being a dad. Everything is complex. If you try to make a map of connections it will a spider's web for sure. With all the pressure; trying to be a perfect mother, a perfect guide, a perfect person we all end up doing a lot of mistakes. Sometimes I feel that there are a lot of mistakes I did for which I am still trying to forgive myself, among these, I have no shame to admit that a few times I lost my temper with you and slapped you. Because this is what we have grown up with whether its a TV series, any Bollywood movie, our teachers, even our parents we have seen that it's ok! to slap your kid if they misbehave. Parents have a right. But gradually I realized it is the worst thing I imitated in my life. This too is an act of violence, it doesn't matter that my intentions were not to hurt or damage you but I think on some unseen level it did. And I am really sorry about this. I am trying and will promise that it won't repeat again ever. This is the only act of violence I this I did so far other than fighting with my big brother when we were kids. Oh common! it sounded like I did it like so many times, Yes! it sounded that heavy but I assure you that is not the case but still, it won't repeat. Now, coming to the point, violence is definitely not something that should be accepted. There are different types of violence, some of them are:


  • Economic violence
  • Political violence
  • Sexual or gender violence
  • Domestic violence
  • Cultural violence 
  • Religious violence
  • Information violence 
  • Violence by cyberbullying
  • Violence as per the act of terrorism


These types of violence can be observed easily near you. Witnessing is also kind of accepting it. I know in today's time it is difficult to act immediately but something should be done to stop these acts permanently. There is no parameter to find out the degree of violence because it is very difficult to find out how much a certain act harm or affect a human bearing it. Few damages cannot be seen or felt by anyone other than the person himself. The person who faced child molestation can't tell you how hurt he/she is. We should all fight against violence. Violence in any form cannot easily eradicate, it takes an army but if everyone does their bit it creates one. Do your bit. Help others too. We will surely get a better future. 

Good Luck!!

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Friday, 24 April 2020

Understanding Responsibility



Dear Aarush and Aayra,

It is amazing to see a child grow, that too into a responsible person is amazing. Responsibility is a very big term. One needs to understand it properly. In very simple words being responsible means you do the things you are expected to do and accept the results of your actions no matter positive or negative. Responsibility and duty both are different terms. Duty is a moral commitment to something or someone whereas responsibility is an ability to act at one's own will without any supervision. Responsible behavior is said to be made up of five essential elements- honesty, compassion/respect, fairness, accountability, and courage. Being a responsible person is important. It has a broader meaning and can be looked into various paradigms. Being responsible at different stages of life have different meanings. It is important:


  • Being a responsible child to parent
  • Being a responsible sibling
  • Being a responsible student
  • Being a responsible spouse
  • Being a responsible worker
  • Bein a responsible citizen
  • Being a responsible human
Responsibility is something all should learn. By developing responsibility one can reach their full potential. Responsibility involves, making decisions, being trusted, and learning to take credit for your actions. As adults, we try to encourage kids to be responsible by giving them small tasks and helping them while they try to complete it. Forcing and pointing out the mistakes never help here, in fact, it could result in their low self-esteem instead of making them more responsible. So, please don't run when your teacher asks you to take responsibility for particular tasks or to be a monitor for a particular work. These may be the smaller steps but will surely lead you to be a responsible person in the future.

Good Luck!!

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Thursday, 23 April 2020

Tolerance


Dear Aarush and Aayra,


Think about your lifestyle the way you live, your beliefs, your way of talking, thinking, and the environment. Now take a look around you and think about someone else's, you might found some aspects of other's life which annoys you, which are according to you are irritable. This often makes difficult for us to connect to other people. This could be the case with any of your family members or your roommate or your fellow student or your neighbor. Here, Tolerance plays an important role. Tolerance as per many psychologists is respecting other people's beliefs or ways of living. Tolerance is actually a term used to describe other people's attitudes and behaviors which maybe be disapproved or treated by us as abnormal, nevertheless, we try to respect them even if you don't tolerate the other person's behavior. Tolerance is a virtue that helps us to put up with those who have different ways and opinions and outlook on life. Tolerance is one of the conditions of good manners hence it is important in everyone's life. If someone is tolerant it helps you stay at peace and gives happiness in social settings.

Being Intolerant


If I am saying all this it doesn't mean that I am myself a very tolerant person. I wish I could be more tolerant of other people. Being intolerant doesn't mean one needs to show anger or have a temperament. It could discomfort you on other levels also. Being an intolerant person some people attain a know-it-all attitude in life even when they don't know about a certain thing they always deny to accept it. This is unhealthy and lead you to bigger problems in life.
An intolerant person always has words but their depth is nowhere to be found. They could have an extreme line of thoughts which often shows their rigidity. This could result in a lot of relationship issues too.

Younger or older who are more tolerant


This is quite unsure how to generalize who are more tolerant but as some theories state, young kids are less tolerant. This may be because of the lack of their experiences in comparison to an older person. But even if younger ones are less tolerant it is always seen that they bounce back their behavior earlier than any adult can do.

Why people tolerate unacceptable behavior

 
Sometimes it is unclear to a person what is acceptable and what is not. Even if they are clear about it some of them don't feel they have the internal power to stand for themselves. Because of this, they tolerate unacceptable behavior. This can be easily be seen nowadays in schools as bullying. If one could look at the deep ends we can also see that that accepting such behaviors could be because they themselves had been punished in life so they are too scared to say anything. Sometimes people are too busy to even care so they accept whatever comes in their way.

When we should not tolerate 


Tolerance is not meant to encourage a weak-kneed attitude to life. It has a limit and beyond that, it may become a social crime. It is very important to understand when we should not tolerate other people's behavior. When accepting the behavior means going against your basic values as dishonesty, social wrongs it should not be accepted. We should not be complaisant towards personal attacks. Tolerance is a virtue only when it comes to the principles of morality and good cause towards life. There are various facets of tolerance which should not be acceptable spiritual, religious, racial and gender unacceptable behaviors should not be tolerated.

Good Luck!!

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Zeal of Happiness

Dear Aarush and Aayra, Happiness is a choice. We can add the zeal of happiness in our lives. Zeal is passion or enthusiasm or eagernes...